One of my
frustrations as I read through the book was that it felt like Murray was too
easily falling into the equation, Fishtown=Bad, Belmont=Fine. Why this worried
me is that even if in Belmont the revolutions of the past 50 years have left
the population relatively unscathed (at least compared to Fishtown), that still
doesn’t mean that they are a good thing and that even if their effect cannot be
measured in statistics about divorce rates, might they have deeper-seeded
implications?
In the
last chapter Murray addresses precisely this concern. He calls this new elite,
the Belmontians, hollow. They have the husks of the old traditions, but no
longer can articulate why they are valuable. He accuses Belmont of walking the
walk but being afraid, lest they for a moment appear judgmental (our nation’s
only remaining sin), of talking the talk. In other words, Belmont marries well
and enjoys their successes, social, financial, cultural, etc., but cultural
relativism proscribes the ability for them to suggest that perhaps Fisthtown
could stand to learn something from the way they operate. While it is clear by
all sociological measures that children raised in loving, two parent homes turn
out better than children raised any other way (again, this is statistically
speaking, we all know incredible single moms), preaching this message to our
country would come off as cold and unfeeling. While people who work hard at a
job that is meaningful to them have higher rates of happiness than someone who
squeaks by paycheck to paycheck but drinks a lot of beer on the weekend, it
would be wrong to point this out. Some of these people claim to be happy after
all. Some probably are. But the weight of the numbers doesn’t lie.
I am an
old soul and a skeptic. I have fought both of these tendencies for some time,
but I remain this way. The old soul in me laments the loss of the Greek view of
life (adjusted in my own case as for so many with a Christian spin). For the
Greeks life was about the good life, wholly conceived. A life of
responsibility, hard work, learning, virtue, etc. Today the good life is about
what comes easily. Sex, drinking, a job that you endure because you must. And
this ethos is not leaving many people very satisfied in the end.
I was
trail running in the mountains a few weeks ago while back in Colorado with an
old friend and we talked about the strategic decisions we have made in our
lives to live differently from those around us. We’re not out till 3 a.m.
drinking on Friday nights because we are up at 6 doing long runs. We want to
accomplish a lot with our physical/athletic lives but we also want to be more
concerned with others than with ourselves. And of course these things come with
a cost. Having stayed out until 3 a.m. drinking I can tell you that it is a
good deal more fun (and immensely easier) than waking up at 6 a.m. for a long
trail run. But we make the sacrifice in the hope of something greater. And
there are precious few feelings better than outkicking someone in the last
quarter mile of a race or completing an ultramarathon at all. What we talked
about was how we deal with all of the pain on the front end—sore quads and
calves and feet and an occasional headfirst dive into tree roots—but those in
our generation who live differently deal with the pain on the backend—fractured
relationships, broken hearts, loneliness, lack of purpose. And this carries
into more areas of our lives than the way we run. We both have made great
sacrifices to have families not because it is easy or fun but because it is
still better. And many other areas of life as well.
I am not
commending myself as an example. At least not much. I am a bastard mostly. An
endless source of confusion to myself. But the trajectory of my life is toward
the Greek view. I want the good life. Not the easy life. Not the cheap life. And
despite my wanderings, I will always come back to that view.
I am a
skeptic about this ever getting better. In my half-hearted commendation of
myself, it must be noted that I am Belmont. Not, mind you, in the sense that I
am in the top 20% of income earners in this country (ha!), but certainly in my
habits and tastes. I have been sheltered, mercifully, from so much pain by the
way I was raised—two parents who not only love but like each other, father
living out the American Dream, mother staying home with the kids and making us
breakfast and dinner every day, a dinner that we ate at the table and not in
front of the television—how quaint it seems even now. Murray tries not to be a
skeptic. He gives a hopeful spin to this situation in the concluding chapter,
hoping for a renewal of civic virtue and a reimagination of the American Dream
that will sweep our country back toward our ideal of equality. I don’t mean to
oversimplify Murray’s position, but the only thing I could think about as I
read this section was an Onion article from a number of years ago titled
“800,000 Privileged Youths Enlist to Fight in Iraq.” The article mocks many
features of the affluent life, but one thing it nails is that not many
Belmontians are going to be lining up anytime soon to move to Fishtown or
whatever other social scheme Murray imagines would arrest this decline. And I
don’t see this changing. We are a nation of individualists, and sometimes that
is wonderful and sometimes it is not.
Maybe
America will change. Maybe our fall will be arrested and our ship righted. Or maybe,
as Morris Berman asserts, America has already failed and we are merely in the
death throes of empire right now, subsisting on bread and circuses, hollow to
the core. Though Murray seems unable in the end to provide a roadmap out of
this crisis (if one even exists), he is useful in advancing the conversation
that beyond politics, beyond race or ethnicity, America is fractured and
fracturing in very real ways along class lines. For a nation that likes to
pretend we do not have classes, perhaps at the very least this can serve as a
wakeup call.